It seems as though everyone has a Bucketlist these days. It's human nature to create goals and lists to achieve. As long as I can remember I've had one. I've felt my whole life that I've been trying to prove other's wrong. I'm not the quiet girl. I'm independent. I can move to a place knowing nobody. I can skydive. It gets exhausting...BUT every single thing I have done or achieved in my life has brought me to this point and made me who I am today. A friend of mine recently posted this picture below, and I was immediately drawn to it.
I have gone through quite a few "quarter life crisis'" in my life. Life after grad school was uneasy. It was emotional. I've always felt that I needed to immediately find purpose for my life. Transitioning back to the USA (coming from Europe after a year) deeply affected me. I was really depressed for the first year after coming back to the states. I cried daily, but I had to remember to fight past those feelings and look at the positives of the situation (and realize how lucky I was to be able to do that). I came back with a greater appreciation for humanity, culture, life, and especially travel. It gave me affirmation that there was life outside your comfort zone...and outside of the United States.
So..back to my thought on Bucketlists: you're doing yourself more harm not having one. I started my first Bucketlist when I was 15, after I got back from Europe for the first time. My parents sent me on a month long trip to 6 countries with my high school. The trip only happened every two years, and I was lucky enough to have gone my sophomore year (it replaced my "senior trip"). I've never been conventional, and while every classmate went to Hawaii or LA for their senior trip, I was extremely satisfied of my parents decision for me. I became enamored with travel (to my parents despair), and have never been the same since.
I try to keep journals (mainly travel journals), but I love the whole documentation process. Looking back at my 15 year old Bucketlst, it makes me smile. Skydiving, living abroad for a year, and getting my Master's were all on it. It make my heart happy to know that the goals and promises I have kept to myself were not beyond my reach. They were not unattainable, and they were not ridiculous...because they were mine. All mine. That is all that matter's to me. I have a weird sense of intuition, and 99% of the time my gut is right. I always go with my gut.
Back to my current Bucketlist. There are many reason's why you should ha one:
1. It gives you something to look forward to, to strive for, and to work towards.
2. It helps you become the person you are meant to be. Every experience, every goal reached, and every failure teaches you something about life.
3. It helps you realize what you value, whether it be education, relationships, or travel.
4. They are never ending, and it will help you grow. You are almost never the same person that you were 5-10 years ago.
I am consistently evaluating what I want in my life. I am not a settler, and although I may never be the smartest, the prettiest, or the most successful...I have given everything to become the best person that I can. Here are a few of my current Bucketlist items:
-Travel to all continents
-Fall in love
-Own my own business
-Get married in Italy (and eventually own a villa there)
I strive to be a good person, and I will always try and pay it forward. I believe in karma (even though I am Catholic). Whenever I'm doubting myself, or feeling anxious and unsure about my life and where I am at, I am going to think about the picture above. You are never too young to become the person you were always meant to be.
Bellisima = "Extremely Beautiful" in Italian, and how i would describe the world, and how I view it through travel.